this wasn't a book that i could get into. it's well written and actually parts of it should be quite interesting, but somehow it wasn't. i think a lot of it is that she talks about how she had to develop a distance and detachment from things in order to feel she was a part of her new life, her new self, after immigrating, and so she writes with this detachment about herself. that makes it hard for the reader to get too involved or to care too much. she has some interesting ideas toward the end especially - i really liked what she said about identity in america vs poland - but overall just found it too hard to invest in.