it's not that there isn't anything of value in this book, because there definitely is. but the author's tone is really hard to get past. she is firstly, writing a book that has this pseudo-academic style to it, complete with lengthy details about what she was going to discuss throughout the book and summaries of each chapter, which makes it incredibly tedious to get through. coupled with this academic language is a really annoying overuse of the exclamation point, which i guess isn't really a fair complaint to make, except to say that it bothered me and didn't fit in with the content. her tone is also extremely judgmental and directive - so she says things like, 'if you are or believe in x, y, and z, then you would be a good candidate for toddler adoption. but if you are like a, b, and c, you should consider a different route to parenting or shouldn't parent at all!' it's not even that i necessarily disagree with everything she was getting at, it's just the way she said it was really confrontational, and there was nothing constructive about it. if i wasn't required to read this, i might have actually put it down 1/4 of the way through it.